I've been having so much grief over my wife leaving me and losing all that comes with a 20 year relationship. We have children and still own things together and all our money and assets are still combined, so I still have to communicate with her. We have been trading time between the house (until it sells) and an apartment instead of shuffling the kids so reminders are unavoidable. We're not divorced yet so there hasn't been closure. She's in a new relationship. It seems the grief will never end and it's so hard and confusing trying to grieve for many things at once. What makes it so hard to accept is that it all came about due to my chronic depression that went undiagnosed until after she was gone. I pushed her away as well as all of my friends and family. I'm painfully grieving the love and the life that I lost.