Who are you transferring onto the T? Is it an ex-lover, a teenage crush, a parent? I have read that the best thing is to actually make a list of things that aren't like what you think.

Like...T wouldn't be the perfect lover because he does A, B , C....
and he's really not like my father because of A,B,C.

T is a real person, and you are most likely idolizing him. THink about him taking a crap, or puking, or farting...all those things real people do.