I can definitely understand the frustration that comes from wanting to address something real and present between you and T - and having T try to connect it to something else, taking the focus off of what's really occurring in the moment. I went through something similar with my T but ended up just backing off from it because of how badly things went after it escalated.

I hope you're able to find a way to address it where you are really heard and that your T can be open to working through it with you.