I can tell how frustrated you are by your session, and I'm sorry. I'd be frustrated too, if that's how my T responded to my concerns and feelings. One thing I've noticed in my therapy, so it's probably common, is that often I remember details about my session and things my T said, that were important, at least to me. But when I bring them up, she doesn't remember! It's frustrating but the truth is that our Ts don't remember everything they said or everything we said!!

I hate it when I want to talk about something but I can tell my T wants to go in another direction. It's OUR therapy, so we should be able to direct it the way we want to.

I wish you could have been able to stick with your concerns about your relationship even though your T didn't want to "go there." She must really believe that "you and she are okay" when she said it. I can picture how hard it would have been to get up and shout "NO WE'RE NOT OKAY!" That's what I would have said if I were hiding in the room with you as a pocket rider! At least that's what I would have LIKED to say.

Maybe you can email her that thought, that you and she are NOT okay and you need to discuss it more. Maybe you're being too gentle with your T when you say you can't show her this post. It sounds to me like you need to be stronger and more direct with her in order for this to get resolved. I'm sorry you felt unheard today.