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Old Jun 17, 2013, 11:25 PM
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Originally Posted by hankster View Post
So what's the elephant in the room? Would you ask her if she was cheating? I would frame it to say that it bothers me about you (her). It's not that she has to answer, it's that people are fallible, as tinyrabbit said, and I don't see that you're confronting her about it.
No, that isn't the elephant in the room at all. I'm not talking about her self-disclosure. I was initially dealing with that, but that's not the real issue. Forget anything I said about her self-disclosure. The elephant in the room is that she hasn't been HEARING me lately. Specifically, I felt she wasn't hearing me when I said I did NOT feel ISOLATED last week. I felt she was trying to PUSH THAT FEELING on me, when that was NOT how I was feeling. I wanted her to stop and LISTEN to how I was actually feeling. I was actually feeling CLAUSTROPHOBIC and wanted to be LEFT ALONE by people in my RL. I wanted LESS contact. Then, today, when I tried to bring it up and talk about that exchange and work on our therapy relationship, she changed the subject. She didn't want to talk about my not feeling heard or the therapy relationship. I wanted to work on this, work through this, and get back to her helping me with my "real" issues, which have nothing to do with dating or cheating or anything like that.

(Side note: She told me she cheated; I don't need to ask her. There is nothing I want to ask her. I don't want to know any more personal information. I know too much. I want to talk about ME and being HEARD.)

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Instead you're kinda mad she can't tell you where to meet someone?
Whoa. WTF? Where on Earth did that come from? I'm really confused!