Thread: How to say "NO"
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Old Jun 17, 2013, 11:49 PM
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Originally Posted by Bipolarartist View Post
My ex-h is begging me for sex and he's getting really quite pathetic about it. Tryng all sorts of guilt trips. My problem is if I get too close to him, his smell is arousing and I'm really incapable of saying "no"

Any suggestions? Keeping away is not possible as my 2 daughters live with him.
Where is the harm? How is it harmful for you to have sex with him? Does it make it harder to move on?

My first H wanted to keep a sexual r/s just not be married in traditional terms (it was indeed a premature marriage in our early 20s). I did not go along and just had him move out and live with a roommate when such an opportunity arose - a guy friend was looking for a roommate. In hindsight, I am not sure I did the right thing. Maybe yes, maybe no.

In other words, for you to say "no", there should be some kind of harm to you from having sex with him - what is the harm, in your opinion?