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Jun 17, 2013, 11:52 PM
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Member Since: Dec 2012
Location: California
Posts: 2,248
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Originally Posted by scorpiosis37
Like I said in my other thread, I never expected or wanted T to be perfect. I only wanted her to be open to discussing this issue with me. I wanted her to allow the conversation and talk it through with me. I wanted to work with my feelings, rather than have her change the subject. How is that being self-righteous? I didn't accuse her of anything, tell her she did anything wrong, or ask her to do anything different. I only used "I feel" statements and tried to express to her how I was feeling. I said I wanted to talk about this issue, rather than avoid it. I don't see there is anything wrong with my approach?
I also just sent my T an e-mail (my 3rd e-mail ever!) explaining how I felt after our session today, and asking that we talk about it in more detail next week.
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I hear how hard you worked, and thoughtful you were.
I imagine from reading your response if you feel vulnerable and defensive about being evaluated by others. I think I might. And I imagine that is hard after what you just went through and seeking support.
I hear you doing your work. I did one time talk to my T about changing a subject quickly and not picking up on something I said THREE times. His response was wonderful. I felt safer after this, knowing that bumps in the roads will be bumps, not big potholes, or sink holes in the road. It can be done by Ts. I hope she will listen to you.
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