Going off of my own relationship, I can almost guarantee you that she did not interpret your ignoring her as a cry for help or attention from her. She may have been hurt that you were ignoring her as well...at least I know that is how I would have taken it. If she's the type that blows things off, she may have just thought "what a jerk"...
But the problem I see when I read your post is a problem with being able to communicate effectively with each other. Do you see a therapist or anything? I am dealing with similar issues in my relationship, and he refused to go to counseling because "I am the crazy one" so I started going by myself. One person obviously can't fix a relationship, but it's helping me alot just to have someone to talk to. Regardless of how the relationship turns out.