I have and he's a good kid, and I see a lot of his father in him, but the features that aren't mine or his just reminds me and makes me want to leave. This isn't the kid's fault and I don't blame him for being born. I relate to his existence in that we were both mistakes our mothers chose to have. I am the product of a rape back when my mom was 16. I have one older sibling my mom had at 15 with her bf. I do have empathy for him.

How is he going to feel when his dad get married? He hasn't had to share his dad in a long time, then this red haired musician (me) comes blowing into town, now it's not just him and his dad anymore on his visits. What about when his dad has another kid that gets to live with him and see him all the time?

I blame my bf for not being more responsible and for not telling me right away. I told him when we went our first date that I don't date guys with kids. He told me 5 months later he had one after I fell hard for him. When I tell this part of the story I feel stupid for staying.. :/ I guess I figure I will be 30 in February and men my own age are likely to have already been married once and/or have a kid already, so I might as well get used to the idea with one that I love and am so compatible with. Sorry, didn't mean to ramble in my reply.