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Originally Posted by BronzeOceans
I do want to clarify one thing though - she's made it clear that the feeling she gets of being "overwhelmed" is an emotional reaction, rather than being overcome with any physical reaction from kissing me. She's said it feels like it's "too much," and she has to break away/pull away in response. That's why I'm so troubled by it... it's definitely like there's some kind of "block" there.  |
From the point of view of someone with extreme anxiety issues...kissing can sometimes make me feel "trapped" and I have to pull away, establish my own space again. It is an overwhelming feeling. It's a sudden need to flee, to pull away, to run. It's almost instinctual for me. As I've gotten a better handle on my anxiety, I can put more words to the feelings, I can recognize them, and I can work through them. But, at first, it was just overwhelming and I needed to be "away."
Sooo - just a thought, but maybe that's what is happening with your girlfriend. It's not that she feels trapped by you, exactly, just that she's having a reaction that causes that feeling.
Some things you guys could try - short kisses, let them build up in duration slowly. Kiss without too much additional bodily contact (like don't wrap your arms around her too tightly or even at all) so that she can easily "escape" if needed. If she pulls away because she's feeling overwhelmed, suggest she take a few deep breaths, sit quietly for a minute, and then once she's a little calm, one quick kiss, where you pull away and give her space instantly. You pulling away will show that she's not trapped, you're going to give her space, and you're respecting her need for it.
Just some thoughts of things that have helped me in dealing with feeling trapped and personal space issues.