I had once posted a thread about Choice Theory, and I actually was surprised on the very intelligent opinionated answers. Some people were a little bothered, because they felt strongly about their diagnoses. That I completely understand and when I talk about Choice Theory my intention is to acknowledge, not offend or imply that you are wrong. I just wanted to say that from the beginning, so it doesn't appear that way.

Well, I was talking to my mother yesterday, and I had a chance to tell her about how I feel about her chronic crack cocaine addiction, and for the first time in a long time she actually listened me speak out about it without immediately defending herself. I told her that I understood her addiction and it's typicalness, but I didn't understand her choice. Many times my Mom has getting crack out of her system physically, but always seemed to make the choice to return.

I explained this to her, I said "Ma, once the crack is out of your system physically, it is then mental, and nothing but mental. I told her it is a habit, and her mind will convince her to return. I then told her that if she simply made the small choices like stay out of the "crack" neighborhoods, and maybe change her phone number it would help her. Just these small choices are significant, and as simple as making them.

My Mom of course defends herself with her fabricated and exaggerated addiction (crack smoking little devil on the shoulder I suppose). She claims her addiction controls every significant and insignifagant aspect and element of her existence. Of course she exaggerates. I believe if she was to ultimately make that choice, after the physical addiction, it would be that simple.

Personally I've dealt with addiction, still do, and will for the remainder of my life. But I remember after physical detox, mentally and emotionally I was a wreck over this. But I made the choice, that one choice, and it was that simple. Of course that choice took work, but once I knew what I had decided, to stay sober, I was willing to work my *** off for it.

How do ya'll feel about this. I love all your opinions, they are open and intelligent, do not be afraid to tell me how it is!...lol