I respect your opinion and reject it completely!
What defines you, in my opinion, is the perception you create for yourself. I understand the whole concept of social perception and acceptance by your peers et cetera ad naseaum infititum, but take for example people like Richard Branson, Brian Warner, even Lady frikken Gaga! They all created a new norm, a perception that they themselves defined... So I guess I'm saying that normal is relative and one shouldn't be bothered about what other people think because if it makes you happy and you love yourself and what you stand for: you can't go wrong.
Feel free to disagree, but remember: if I agreed with you, we would both be wrong