have you tried to compartmentalizing your appointments? you go to session in a totally professional manner, no hugging, no outside contact such as email or text, you see t in session and that is it. discuss what you need to discuss and then you are done with t until next session. you put her back in her compartment until next week. all t takes place while she is out of the compartment. you put her back in and it is done. you dont go back to it until you take t out the next week. anything comes up during the week, you stick it in the compartment to think about later with t. you dont dwell on it. you have to wait. you have an alloted time to work with t, say one hour before session and one hour after to process your session. otherwise everything stays in the compartment. this way you are not thinking about t all the time. you have a set amount of time to deal with t and that is it. good luck.