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Originally Posted by Leed
Hi ~ I'm sorry this is all happening. This "uncle" definitely has some problems and needs therapy badly.
My friend, you said that this girl seemed to have a personality disorder -- well do you really think that she'd believe you if you told her? Since she views him as a "father figure" and tells him everything, I seriously doubt that she'd believe anything negative that you tell her about him. She's totally on his side.
I have to agree with your husband. Stay out of it, and let her find out on her own. She will at some point. She'll find out something that he's said that she told him in confidence. It's only a matter of time.
When dealing with family matters like this, it's just best to sit back and be neutral. That way, you don't get into trouble. 
God bless and PLEASE take care. Hugs, Lee |
Thanks for the response! you are right. telling her would not be helpful, she probably wouldn't believe me and i would get myself deeper into this mess. i know that i partly want to tell her as a sort of 'revenge' at my father's brother and my father. and I should not do that. I'll let them sort themselves out. thanks for telling me like it is! and thank you for acknowledging how messed up this family situation is! in my last conversation with my parents, they told me that i need to see a therapist!!! apparently my father asked his brother if what i said happened actually happened. his brother denied it, and my father has decided to side with his brother. so where does that leave me, his daughter? I don't know. its makes me really sad. I have 2 daughters. if one of them came to me, and told me this happened to them, i would believe them.