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Monalisasmile- I think you underestimate the power a therapist can have over us if they reject us but of course we have to give them that power in the first place. i don't underestimate the power a therapist has, but the point for me is that they only have that power because of our issues with attachment and abuse/neglect etc if we didn't have those spaces in our development then a therapist couldn't hold such power or risk.
This is such an important point, Asiablue. It's a reminder that we have agency, we're not at someone's (a therapist's or anyone else's) mercy. At least not -generally speaking- as adults, and you're making important distinctions between child and adult in your explorations here. The work is in resolving the attachment issues within the relationship, but this doesn't have to equate to giving up your-self, your agency, the strength that's there to both celebrate the triumphs in therapy and sit with the pain of therapy, without denying/destroying the triumphs in the process.
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