You're not alone. I've never cried once in all of my years of therapy, and that's many years! I have told her that I feel like crying, and the tears are there, but they're unshed. I even wrote her a poem about my unshed tears. I don't cry with other people either. I think it has to do with being shy and inhibited my whole life, and not being able to let people see what I'm feeling. It may have to do with shame about my body. Does any of that ring true for you too?

Did you cry when you were a child, or were you told not to cry, or punished for crying? That could be a factor too. Sometimes my T will ask me what the tears would be saying if they did come out. I like when she asks that. It sounds like your T is compassionate and will be nice to you whether you cry or not. You can't force yourself to cry. One of my former Ts told me that I don't have to cry for therapy to be effective. If you find out the secret to being able to cry, let me know!

One more question. Do you cry after therapy when you're alone? Sometimes I can barely make it out the door and I'm crying, but the tears wait until I'm safely out of the office.