I think it's great that you were able to hear T and that you want to work on not interrupting her (and, hopefully, people in your RL too)! I think it would be really good progress for you if you could learn to stop interrupting and not only listen to what other people have to say, but really find value in the process of hearing and learning from what others share. This sounds like a great thing to work on in therapy!

I think interrupting, as a behavior, is indicative of the kind of one-way relationship that you seem to crave (like the therapy relationship). It's a way for you to talk and get gratification from being listened to without having to "give back" by then listening to what the other person has to say. It's a way of taking without giving. I don't think it's possible to have a reciprocal relationship without taking turns talking and listening. I think this is actually a bigger problem in RL than it is in T. In T, the therapy is supposed to be about us. Of course, if we don't listen to what the T has to say, how are we going to make improvements? Perhaps your therapy would be more effective, and you would make progress on your pattern, if you talked less and listened more?

In RL, though, it's not all about us, so interrupting is a real inhibitor to having close relationships. When you interrupt people, you send the message "loud and clear" that you think what you have to say is more important than what they have to say. If you don't listen to someone and ask little follow-up questions about what they're saying, then you're sending them the message that you don't care about them or what is important to them. Have you have the experience of someone interrupting you and not listening to you? How does that make you feel? Even if these things are done unintentionally, they still send the same message. You've mentioned before that you struggle with friends and your kids not sharing certain things with you, or not telling you about events in their lives. Maybe if you were a better listener, they would be more inclined to share things with you, and you could have a closer relationship? One-way relationships and one-way sharing can only fill us up part of the way; we need that reciprocality to get the full benefit of a relationship. It actually feels good to listen and give, too! So, maybe, one of the best ways to work on your marriage is to stop talking "at" your husband so much, and really listen to what HE has to say? The best way you can show someone you care is by listening to them and giving them your undivided attention. Why do you think you like your T so much? It's precisely because this is the service she provides. She listens to you! Imagine what kind of an impact you could have on your H, your friends, and your family, if you spent more time really listening to them? It would probably make them feel really good. I know that you've said before that you find the things your H shares "boring," but maybe you need to spend more time listening so that you can learn more about what he is sharing and find something about it that DOES interest you. If you take the time to listen, there are usually things that do grab us. I'm sure we are all boring to our Ts sometimes, too-- but they always find something we say to latch onto. This works in RL too.

I can say from experience that having a friend/co-worker who is an interrupter can be very tiring and it makes me feel the need to assert personal boundaries. I'm usually a pretty open book with my friends, but with this friend, I tend not to share very much about my life. Why? For one, I assume she doesn't want to know. Since she always interrupts me to talk about herself, I assume she doesn't really care about what is going on with me or my life. I assume she finds my life boring, since she always cuts me off to talk about herself. Additionally, being interrupted feels like a boundary violation. It feels like she is stepping on me and my boundaries when she talks over me. It makes me feel less safe with her. So, to protect myself, I don't share with her anything "deep" about my life. I don't share my emotions, I don't tell her about my trips, I don't tell her about what's going on with my family, and so forth. I keep things on a superficial level, and tend to do activities with her that don't require too much talking, like going to the movies or exercising. It gets very tiring to be "talked at" so I try to avoid it as much as possible. When someone talks that much and doesn't let me get a word in, it doesn't feel like a conversation or like a meeting of the minds. We are not sharing or connecting. Instead, it feels kind of like a verbal assault. It's the difference between talking "to" or "with" someone, and talking "at" someone. I'm not saying that you necessarily come across as my friend does; I've never had a verbal conversation with you But, if your T, your H, and your friend are pointing this out to you, I think it's a great thing to take note of and I'm proud of you for really wanting to work on it. It sounds like a great way to use your therapy time (instead of focusing on T) and a great way to improve your relationships in RL. So, kudos to you for finding a productive way to improve your RL through therapy!