CE,
Do you believe that Madame t didn't do these things to punish you? Because I do believe people forget to do things or even do things a little differently than we would like and sometimes we just have to accept that nobody will do things exactly as we want unless we tell them and then they have a choice whether to do them like that.
It just seems to me sometimes that you want to fight Madame t no matter what and she can't do any right.
I am sorry you had such a hard time with your mother and I can understand why you feel this way with Madame t, new t sounds great btw