Nobody can "see" what's happening, even if it's in public. There are two sides to every story, and usually when we're asked to intervene, we hear only one side. Then when we get the other side, we see the story is more complicated and complex than the first side let on. It can often involve, for instance, two people who were online friends, but had a falling out.

Airing the argument in public just creates more drama. It doesn't really help to clarify anything, since a person can act any way they'd like to support their position.

We're not about drama here, we're about providing people a safe place to get or give emotional support. Inevitably, because we're all human, not everyone is going to get along with everyone else (and it's idealistic to believe that's possible). This is true in any community -- online or offline. We've setup a series of guidelines to help us with these issues, and guide our behaviors so we maintain a safe community.

If you feel some member is "abusing" you or another member (or stalking you, or harassing you, whatever...) -- whether via PM or in posts -- let us know via a PM to myself or any admin. We can look into the matter privately, and reach a resolution. It may not always be the resolution a member wants, but we act in the fairest manner we can to all sides.

I appreciate your feedback, thank you.

Best,
DocJohn