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Old Jun 19, 2013, 08:49 AM
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Originally Posted by rainbow8 View Post
I tend to interrupt my T and not listen to her. I do that in RL too. Today she commented about it and told me that it seems like I don't want to hear what she has to say. That made me feel bad because I DO want to hear her. I'm not aware of my behavior while it's happening. I just feel like I have to keep telling her things and I don't notice when she starts to talk! I want to change this bad habit!

I think I do it because of anxiety. My H tells me all the time to stop talking and listen. All my Ts have mentioned it but no one told me how to stop doing it. One friend says that I never let her finish a sentence.

When I was a child and teenager I was very shy and didn't interrupt people. Maybe I'm making up for all the talking I didn't do.

I don't do it to be selfish. I think next session I'll ask my T to stop me all the times I interrupt her because, like I said, I don't know I do it. Like saying "you know", or "like", or "um".

I think women interrupt more than men. I don't think I'm so unusual, but for my T to comment on it sort of makes me feel weird. Yet, I'm glad she feels that I'm secure enough to withstand being criticized.

I just wondered if others have this problem in therapy and what they do about it.


I think it's great that you're working on not interrupting! I have a habit of doing that sometimes. I didn't used to notice when I did, but now I am more self-aware and catch myself it I do it. My dad is a terrible interrupter, especially when he's drinking. So I know first hand how awful it can feel.
Thanks for this!
rainbow8