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Originally Posted by rainbow8
oops, I just lost my reply to you.  I understand how you feel because my T has been telling me "it isn't about me" a lot, especially lately.  I think we have to find the middle ground between wanting our Ts to be the one who is there for us and can comfort us, and relying on others for that, but mostly relying on ourselves. She just told me today, again, that relationships change, people move away or die, and the only one we can count on is ourselves.
I'm glad you're going to confront your T about it. Please post what she says. Yes, she's part of the process, but the goal is for her NOT to stay part of the process. It's hard....I know....  |
Hi Geez,
I understand what your t was trying to do, but I think she could have said it in a kinder way. The way she said it would have bothered me alot. The way she said, "It's not about me" makes it sound like it's all black and white. Isn't there a middle ground? Why can't she be an important source of support as well as you having a support network of friends, etc.? That's probably what she meant, but if it was me, I would have to ask her about it. I hope you can clear this up with your t.