I got so it was not worth it to me to work so hard to keep from crying versus just doing so and continuing on, as if it were no big deal :-) I got good at that and it pleased my husband as his ex-wife would cry and not be able to talk or do anything else and he felt so helpless and frustrated/shut out. I use to picture myself as a walled town with multiple interior rings of walls? So, when I cried the first time, I just pictured myself retreating behind the next layer of walls, "giving up" that first one. It turned out okay in the end.