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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster
Easily replacable man, you need to first pour money, time, and energy into having a healthy pregnancy and a great childbirth experience, since pregnancy and birth are, unlike men, rare. You will probably only have a couple kids. So focus on eating, exercising, being properly hydrated, resting... swimming is an absolute best for the later months of pregnancy.
You need to see a lawyer in regards to possible support from the bf, in the future.?
You need to decide if the bf should watch the birth. It does not sound like his presence at birth would give you any joy, but the decision is yours if he is interested, and, good riddance if he is not interested.
Legal fees and doula fees should take priority over couples therapy fees, in my opinion. First things first.
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I do have a very good attorney, because I also have a 13 year old son and I hired him when his father and I split up. He was my mother's divorce attorney. I haven't spoken with him regarding this issue yet. He knows I'm pregnant because I saw him a few months ago for my son (who is now refusing to go to his father's house for visitation) but I'm reluctant to call him. He has a wonderful wife and always talks about his daughter (when he saw me he told me that his wife's pregnancy was the best time of their lives)...it's just depressing and in the past 13 years I've seen him for my son's custody issues, a divorce, and now this. The man must think I'm a complete disaster
I know it will probably come to that though...a few days ago when we were "talking" about breaking up, he informed me that I wasn't getting child support from him, because I wasn't getting a penny of his money. He also told me that he would get full custody of the baby because I'm not working (I pay most of the bills, btw...from savings, because I put away money so I wouldn't have to work full time when I went back to school. He also lives in MY house which I bought 7 years ago BY MYSELF). I know that this won't happen, but this is what I'm dealing with...he's completely irrational, and so arrogant that he really thinks he's just going to walk into a court room and tell the judge what's going to happen. UGH!!!!