Good point, RoseBee, I hadn`t thought of it like that, as people are older when they get together they usually do have "baggage". My ex is 12 years younger than me and totally accepted my baggage, so it you`ve got me thinking: is it a measure of real love when total acceptance is present? In a way I`m glad that I am past it! But I can see your problem more clearly now, I am sorry I was so dismissive, regards Dionysius.