Hello Alex ~ Yes, it sounds like you are definitely being abused - verbally and emotionally. It sounds like he's quite good at it too.

Do you really want to stay with this man? Do you REALLY think he will change? He's had YEARS of acting like this, and even if you went to therapy, do you think that in a slight "tiff" that he wouldn't "relapse" and fall back into his old behavior? He sure WOULD.

This is just my opinion, since I've seen this happen dozens of times but you can try therapy and he may SEEM to have "gotten it." But the first time you disagree with him or you two have a fight -- he'll start abusing you again. Do you want to live like that? I did for 26 years, and it was HELL.

There are some therapists that see patients on a "sliding scale" based on ability to pay -- but you have to call around to find them. Perhaps some that you call can refer you to the ones who see patients like that. I don't know if they'd advertise in the yellow pages or not! LOL You can also check with your County Mental Health Department and see what they have to offer -- they may have some services available. It's worth a call.

I wish you the very best, my friend. I hope things work out for you! God bless and PLEASE take care of YOU! Gentle hugs, Lee