I've been thinking. What is it about us that makes nons-distorted or not-like us so much? Even to the point of stalking or other erratic behaviors? Of course, I have read the non side (haven't we all). But I have been trying to figure out what is it about me that makes certain individuals come to me?
What I found when looking at past interactions with individuals is that they idealize me, sometimes to the point of worshiping me, for being strong minded and doing things that they would/could not do themselves. I guess it's good to be admired, but I am a bit numb to it because I hear it a lot. But when there is that one person who falls madly in love with you......and this has happened several times....all for this? I feel like they now become like limb that is dead and rotting and must be cut off. Or a person who just jumps on your back and sits there as you are walking, carrying their weight. But they are really-subconsciously or not-pulling you down to their level.
Admiration is good, but to this extreme? No. It's annoying. Now if you were to explain this to them, their reaction would be negative like "Oh so you want me to hate you? Ok." No, I just dont want you all over my body.
So in order not to attract these kind of people, what are we to do? Act like wimps? Lose individuality? No. Be smothered for the rest of my life? No.
Any thoughts on this?