the way it's working with me is, t moves in closer, I feel more secure, I become more independent. T is still there for me to ask him my goofy insecure questions, but they are becoming easier, less fraught, less stressful, less important, as I start to build up my new life, with his help to do it right this time. Or if not right, then at least better. Do I have a headache? I ignore it on my own, but he gets me ibuprofen in session and looks fora reason and a solution - teaching me to take care of myself, not just ignore me until I am more acceptable. A new rapprochement.