Hi Redd:

Obviously holding on to old hurt and pain isn't healthy, but defining how to "let go" is difficult. I personally imagaine that I turn a dial (like from an old radio) down on the memory, thought, or feeling. Like turning the volume, intensity, and brightness down on the hurt. Also looking at my self talk about the hurt and trying to tone down my language is helpful. But is is really challenging. I wish you the best.

gary