I've read your thread.
I would like to make a suggestion if I may...
Before u go to your next T session concentrate on stopping your habit of interrupting her when she is talking. In other words I'm saying to catch yourself before it happens. Obviously there is something going on in your subconscience mind that tends to control your behavior without u being aware it's happening. Control your mind and then u can control your behavior. Use the power of your mind to recognize and identify what triggers u to behave that way. It takes practice but it's not impossible and when u learn to do this your life will be so much better and u will reap the benefits.
Good luck and thank u for sharing...
"almostthere"
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Originally Posted by rainbow8
I tend to interrupt my T and not listen to her. I do that in RL too. Today she commented about it and told me that it seems like I don't want to hear what she has to say. That made me feel bad because I DO want to hear her.  I'm not aware of my behavior while it's happening. I just feel like I have to keep telling her things and I don't notice when she starts to talk! I want to change this bad habit!
I think I do it because of anxiety. My H tells me all the time to stop talking and listen. All my Ts have mentioned it but no one told me how to stop doing it. One friend says that I never let her finish a sentence.
When I was a child and teenager I was very shy and didn't interrupt people. Maybe I'm making up for all the talking I didn't do.
I don't do it to be selfish. I think next session I'll ask my T to stop me all the times I interrupt her because, like I said, I don't know I do it. Like saying "you know", or "like", or "um".
I think women interrupt more than men. I don't think I'm so unusual, but for my T to comment on it sort of makes me feel weird. Yet, I'm glad she feels that I'm secure enough to withstand being criticized.
I just wondered if others have this problem in therapy and what they do about it.
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