Thanks Lee,
Unfortunately I had to get the house on the market due to the financial strain of having the house plus an apartment. That burden on my time has eased up a bit now. The house went on the market today.

I've been very conscious of making sure the kids are doing okay as we're going through this. They are 14 and 16 and have a pretty good handle on things but I definitely make sure to keep checking with them to see where they are and what they're feeling. I ask them to describe to me their version of what's happening and we talk about that and I ask them to tell me about things they want to know more about. We have dinners together at home and sometimes out and I make sure we do fun things together as well. Hiking, basketball, movies, etc. I've always spent a lot of time with them and now everything seems so much more important.

It will be much more difficult for them once the house sells. So far they've lived at the house while W and I have gone back and forth. I'm worried about that but we've had many discussions about it and have been trying to figure out how to make it as comfortable as possible for them.