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Originally Posted by _Mouse
We don't work on relationships to discover what 'they' might have thought or done. We work on them to resolve the internal relationship we had with them. Infact working on the relationship you had with your deceased mother will resolve all other difficulties with people.
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I wonder if things are quite so simple.
In psychodynamic therapy (which is what Madame T does), the patient is
encouraged to transfer his external relationships onto the therapist. So far so good. I've done that. Madame T stands in for my mother.
The next step is that the patient and therapist can
work though that relationship. T is holding the other end of the rope, so to speak. In theory, T is supposed to be entirely neutral, but I don't believe that can be true in practice. Whatever I say, she must either react or fail to react. And failure to react is not neutral. It feels like abandonment.
Madame T
triggers my abandonment feelings but there has been no
resolution. It's like we're both making the same mistakes over and over again. I believe that she is supposed help me break out of the cycle. (Is that true, though?
) Her failure to do so feels like
more abandonment and so I quit.
I must print this out. It seems central to my dilemma.