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If your guilt isn’t trying to correct an actual mistake you made in your behavior (e.g., it’s unhealthy guilt), then there’s not a whole lot you need to learn. Instead of learning how to change that behavior, a person can instead try to understand why a simple behavior most people wouldn’t feel guilty about is making one feel guilty. For instance, I felt guilty for spending some time playing a game during regular work hours. Since I work for myself, however, I don’t really keep “regular work hours,” but it’s hard for me to change that mindset after years of working for others.
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5 Tips for Dealing with Guilt | World of Psychology
It is not your fault things are more difficult, that you cannot find a job. You have "unhealthy"guilt about that. You are looking for a job which is what you believe would help you, what else could you possibly do?
Have you gone over the bills/money with your fiance, do you know what you all make/spend together or are you just vaguely aware of what comes in and goes out? Worrying does not help in any way and I get quite angry with myself when I worry; it's wondering about the future in ways that one cannot know. You have to accept your fiance's reassurance that it's okay that you are not working now and use all your energy in being smart about taking care of yourself (eating properly!), spending money smartly, and getting a job when you can.