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Originally Posted by Tulela
The thing that is bothering me the most nowadays is when I meet new people, I always feel "prepared" in advance, but when I actually meet them and have to talk to them, have to "show myself", I realize that I don't really have much to say. I'm just sitting there, listening to what they tell each other but I can't think of anything interesting I can say myself.
Then I go home and realize that there are actually a lot of things I could have said, but this happens only afterwards, not there. So what is going on in these situations?
I hope that this can work better with practice: Saying whatever comes to my mind, without thinking too much about whether it is interesting enough or the right thing to say. I'm also practicing here, so this is one of the reasons behind my post overflow.
What do you think? Do you experience this too?
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I know exactly what you mean. Having to meet and mingle with people always stressed me, I felt self-conscious as if being judged or compared. In social situations such as parties etc, I would feel isolated, must have had low self-esteem. Now I`m 61 and so I don`t "socialise." I came to terms with feeling that way and after a while it didn`t bother me, if people accepted me fine if not that was fine too. Hope this makes sense, just remember you are as good as everyone else.