How long has this been going on for? If it's recent then I would give her some time to grieve, because the way she sees you and the way she views herself in the relationship has completely changed. It may take a while for the dust to settle.

Have you thought about couple's therapy?

One piece of advice I would give to you is to rediscover each other. An emotional affair and the heartache your wife is going through put barriers between the both of you. Go on holiday together far away from the distractions of home. Do something intimate and open.

Just remember that your wife considers you differently. She sees you out of character and not complicit with or commited to her (love after all is passion, complicity and commitment). Maybe you need to work on fixing those aspects.

Best of luck