I went through this with my hubs, but his affair was physical instead of emotional. It took me a long time to get over it, but we did counseling together and did an in house separation, meaning that we slept in separate rooms etc. It was hard work on both of our parts that led to us being able to stay together. Do not just wait for your wife to "get over" this. Be active in fixing the damage and own it. Make sure that you listen to her if she wants to talk and answer her questions honestly. Do not think that because this was an emotional affair, that it is any less painful. In my opinion there would be cases where that would be more damaging than a purely physical affair. Best of luck to you and I hope that your relationship can heal.