Wow.. so many views and not one response.

...This is hard. How can it not be? It's a devastating ordeal. Its soul-crushing and makes us feel as though our hearts are literally being ripped from our chests.

For me, this will be the 2nd time I have had to go through it. It will be the second time I will be standing before the judge where it will be all to obvious that I have no family by my side while my husband is seen with several members of his. It will be the 2nd time that I am seen, representing myself because I cant afford a lawyer, while my husband looks very well prepared. It will be the 2nd time I lose a child. It will be the 2nd time I fake my strength the best I can while my inlaws either turn their noses up at me or look at me with disdain... In fact it will be the 2nd time for may unpleasant things.

There is only 1 difference. (Well, other than the people involved.).

Difference is that , the main reason for this one is largely because I went so long having BPD and it went undiagnosed. The request for divorce came the day after I had an emotional breakdown. Pretty crappy, wouldn't you say?

Anyway, I have been doing a lot or research and I actually had a decent post typed out but I kept falling asleep at my desk and at some point, somehow, I hit my backspace to make a correction and instead it took me to the page I was on prior. Needless to say, when I returned to my post, It was wiped completely. Im not thrilled/

so, I just wanted to share that with you guys. That and the fact that I happened upon a a page called stopyourdivorce.com and it inspired me to research more into how one can, indeed, save their marriage. Even if the other has given up. I'm going to do my best to try.

I also found this link.. wikihow.com/Avoid-Getting-a-Divorce

Wish me luck.