jealousy comes from insecurity.. insecurity comes from being betrayed in the past or possibly from a family where there has been betrayal or divorce..
im the poster girl for jealousy..sad to say.. ive been there (still there infact) , bought the tshirt, got the photos to prove it..
the thing is..there is no way your partner or mine or anyones for that matter can compete with their loved ones insecurities.. it is something that you need to deal with and work thru.. the great thing is if your partner is understanding enough to work thru them with you...
speak to her, and tell her you realize that you need to work on your jelousy, and you love her, and want to be with her. please can she help you overcome these insecurities you keep having..
cos at the moment when you react to your jealous emotions.. your partner feels she is being "attacked" or blamed.. and accused of doing something wrong.. which is why she is now pushing you away..
she is only human.. she will look at another woman.. it human nature..just so long as she does not act on it ..you need to learn to build your trust with her, but you need to involve her in this process.. she will be much more understanding.. let her know (in a calm loving way) what behavior triggers you jealousy, let her know that you know she is doing nothing wrong and you are not accusing her of being unfaithful.. would she be able to help you overcome these negative feelings by.. being more aware of what your triggers are and try to avoid them..
but the thing to remember is that she is with you and faithful to you..
(communication will save your relationship.. )