For the spousehere

Thanks for really telling us everything, I learned a lot reading your post...you write about your lack of boundaries...I have the same thing and I think this is the single most stand out part of your post. When you write about feeling like the walking wounded, it's in reaction to him. Everything in the post is about him, nothing about your own illness or life before him or too much about your kids. How bout a boundary- one between you and him? When I think of boundaries, it is hard for me too. You are not to blame- you could be perfect and he would still find fault with you. The children would probably be happier with you focusing all on them, no? You have a lot of insight, why not channel that insight and see your codependence for what it is? Please write back thespousehere, update us, and again, write as well as you did here, tell us how you are feeling, more about YOU and not reactions to him.