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Originally Posted by DrSkipper
But that doesn't have to do with why you are against masturbation and porn. People can lead fulfilling lives and masturbate. I spend more time on facebook than I do with masturbating and porn and that's more of a time killer. Because really, you watch maybe ten minutes of porn and then a couple minutes of getting off it doesn't take very long to do. But you seem absolutely disgusted by it, which has nothing to do with how long you spend on the computer.
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Right, I think its actually just partially normal 17 year old hormonal sex drive, and partially a coping skill that heyitsme has for other issues, that doesn't really solve the problem.
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Originally Posted by heyitsme7
I am not avoiding the subject. I wish I had more time for other things than just hte computer. It's such a distraction.
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hey... if you're not avoiding the subject, you can start to investigate getting help. Whats your home situation? Family situation? Anyone you can raise the subject of getting some therapy help for you? If resources are a problem there are frequently sliding scale or teaching therapy solutions.
You don't have to go into embarrassing detail-- and put the masturbation thing out of your mind for this conversation-- but just simply say you're feeling terribly troubled... that you're having awful problems socially at school and its gotten to be disturbing to you, and you feel like you could use some help.
If you can get into therapy, you can talk to a professional that's not going to judge you, but instead is going to have empathy and compassion and help you to resolve some of your big issues.
I bet they wont feel nearly quite so big after you've unburdened yourself with a professional.
Edit: you mentioned the school therapist. have you mentioned the whole picture to him? or just the masturbation/porn part? a thought is he may be able to point you towards additional therapy resources... and maybe introduce this to the family if raising this with family is a problem.