As a married man, who, sorry to say, had an affair with a co-worker, I know what u must be going thorugh. My wife also discovered my affair and it took it's tool on our marraige.

It has been documented in studies conducted on this topic, that when there is somethiong lacking in a marraige relationship, men, and sometimes woman, look outside of their marraige.

I don't have to tell you have destructive this is to the marraige, and how it's devastating effects on the children involved. I know... been there...done that.

Because of my decision to have the affair I had to endure alienation from my entire family. They want nothing to do with me, and my so called girlfriend, who told me she loved me, which was a lie, wants nothing to do with me either. My friend.... the consequences are not worth it. But people do it anyway, everyday.

Anyway, if you think that your marraige can be saved than give it a try. But keep in mind, that once the sacred bond of a marraige is destroyed the outcome almost always it bad and the taste it leaves in your mouth is more bitter than sweet!

I hope u can work things out and make the right decision.

Regards,

"almostthere"