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Old Jun 21, 2013, 02:22 PM
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I am sorry you've been through the trauma of a rape There's much works that comes with going from victim to survivor.

Is this 'friend' someone that you work with? You mentioned, in an earlier post that you don't have many female friends and that you mostly work, around men.

Tossing around, sexual innuendo, either as friends or in work, just doesn't seem like something anyone really needs to be around, as often as this friend sounds like.

I get that, in therapy, trying to recover involves opening oneself up to others and being vulnerable. There's a trust factor in the equation.

Maybe, after the reality of surviving an assault, your perspective on innuendo discussions changed?

Your post, sounds like you are young. It's tough enough being young and navigating the maturing process and figuring things out in the sexuality department, without being surrounded by others who have a more naïve and immature perspective on the reality of how rape affects those who have been assaulted.



What does you therapist, say, about this type of friend in your life?

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Originally Posted by hope2013 View Post
In the past, when he would say those things, I didn't attach any importance to it... I became really sensitive after the rape.

I know that he was trying to compliment me, he doesn't understand my reaction even though I have tried explaining it to him.