I've never been married because I thought that if I married the men I dated in the past we would end up divorcing several years into the marriage, and I didn't want that. If I were ever to get married, I wanted it to be for life. I'm so afraid of divorce. So I can relate to what you're going through.

You have my support and my ears to listen to you. I don't know how you can save a marriage when one party is so adamant on leaving and has already served you papers. Also I think it's rather heartless of him to ask for a divorce a day after you were diagnosed with BPD. You would think a caring partner would stay and help nurse you back to health during your darkest hours of need, you know? If it were me I would feel very hurt and abandoned. I would probably sue him for restitution and tell the judge that he contributed to my emotional breakdown because he is, isn't he? You're emotionally on a rollercoaster of feelings of depression and pain not just because you were diagnosed with BPD but also because he asked for a divorce the next day. Who is to say that he didn't contribute to your current mental state? It's like you're being victimized twice in a row. It isn't fair.

And you should fight for custody of your child, or at least joint custody. Tell the judge he's a heartless sociopath for abandoning you and trying to psychologically destroy you by even taking your child away from you.

He is not the good guy here. There are no angels and devils in a divorce. It takes two to tango. He is just as responsible as you. If he tries to say you're an unfit wife and mother, you can turn around and say the same thing about him, because he's not doing his duty as a husband. When you get married you take vows before a judge. It's a legal binding contract. And one of those vows is in sickness and in health. And well he's running out on you when you are sick. So he is an unfit husband too.

I suggest you get yourself a really good lawyer from the free legal society. Research for lawyers who will fight for mothers. And they will do this for free. At least you'll get joint custody and possibly alimony.

I just want you to know that this is not your fault. You are not a bad person. And you don't deserve this.

I don't know all the details about your particular case, but I want you to know that this isn't your fault. It's not your fault that you got sick. It's like coming home from the doctor and telling your husband you have cancer and then he goes out and cheats on you. I personally know two people in real life who have had this happen to them. It's the same thing for you. You don't have cancer, but you have an illness. And there are just certain types of men who can't deal with that and jump ship as soon as they can.

I wish the best for you.