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Originally Posted by hope2013
He was very clingy and didn't let me lead a normal lifestyle (he expected us to be chatting for 6-7 hours a day).
When I ended things with him he said I deserved to be raped.
I have become very selfish since then, I hope my family and friends can forgive me in the future.
I am from the countryside, so there are no rape survivors groups in my area. The good news is that I resumed my college studies last month. So hopefully that's a step forward.
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I don't think you are being selfish - a woman who finally realizes that she does not have an obligation to chat with somebody for 6-7 hours a day is not "selfish" but rather "finally getting the hang of what it means to be OK".
Please pay attention to the signals people send you. The expectation of your chatting with the guy for 6-7 hours a day was highly abnormal, and you could have stopped it right there and then, without proceeding to learn that you "deserved" being raped.
Yes, college would be a huge step forward.