Things like jokes, well, seriously - how are you going to control someone else making a dirty joke? Are you going to keep her in a bubble at home so no other man is going to talk to her/look at her/make dirty jokes? Yes, they are disrespectful but why get angry? This isn't her fault and it isn't a trust issue, that's a good taste issue. As is the dancing really - it's a good taste issue. It's very nice of her to quit the dancing without a quibble.

Why don't you flip this on its head? If not feeling like you want to say something in anger, when someone says something dirty about your g/f, or some guy tries to chat her up, just say something along the lines of "Isn't she just gorgeous? I am a lucky man". You let the men know she is taken, and you also please your g/f with a complement.

The more you write, yes, you do have quite a problem with jealousy. May I say that a good way to keep the odd's down of someone being unfaithful is to be a kind, thoughtful, caring, fun person to be with - and not someone who is these things until another man talks to her. Jealous is an ugly, destructive and completely pointless emotion in relationships. It can become toxic very quickly.

I think that perhaps you shouldn't have started dating again until you'd worked on some issues that the last g/f left you. I've been cheated on, my fiance cheated on me for nearly a year - I took time out, and then dated again when I felt ready. Not for a second did I expect the next person to do the same and nobody (to my knowledge) did.

I wish you well and I hope the therapy does help you.

Hugs.