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Originally Posted by Tulela
The thing that is bothering me the most nowadays is when I meet new people, I always feel "prepared" in advance, but when I actually meet them and have to talk to them, have to "show myself", I realize that I don't really have much to say. I'm just sitting there, listening to what they tell each other but I can't think of anything interesting I can say myself.
Then I go home and realize that there are actually a lot of things I could have said, but this happens only afterwards, not there. So what is going on in these situations?
I hope that this can work better with practice: Saying whatever comes to my mind, without thinking too much about whether it is interesting enough or the right thing to say. I'm also practicing here, so this is one of the reasons behind my post overflow.
What do you think? Do you experience this too?
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I may be wrong, but I think when it comes to talking to them, you may have forgotten what to say or you just probably choose not to be the one that talks a lot and you try to let the other persons do all the talking and everything. I don't know. I think it's just a theory.
If you can't think of anything interesting to say, you can just try to carry on someone else's conversation or remain silent. I would go with the former. (Note: I'm not a good person to seek advice from, so I hope it works out for you. If you don't think it's such a hot idea, you should just disregard my input and stick to your gut).
I think that anxiety can be one of the reasons you're not performing as well. Just remain calm and act nonchalant.