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Old Jun 21, 2013, 11:58 PM
Mapleton Mapleton is offline
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This forum may be for parents of younger children but the moderator suggested I post here and maybe on the ADD forum. I am a mom of a 23 year old son with ADD/ADHD who was diagnosed in 2nd grade. He managed school relatively well with medication and even did well in high school when he decided he didn't want to take it any longer. He passed three AP exams. Sending him to a large 4 year state college was a huge mistake. He could not handle the freedom/classes and came home after the first year. Since then, he has had trouble achieving and staying on task even when taking one class at a time at a community college. He works part time, but often stays in his room. He has been a loner much of his life and loves video games. We have had him see a therapist and psychiatrist, but they will not communicate with us bc of his age unless he is with us. They recommend he stay on medication, and he agrees, but he is very inconsistent. I want to help him, but he usually refuses help bc he wants to be independent. He is not financially independent though, and this is a big concern. We seem to keep going through the same scenarios over and over. Anyone else out there experiencing the same thing?
I wrote a post replying to your intro thread, but you might have missed it.

Mindfulness has been useful. Start with short bursts and work up. Explain its not about meditation or anything BS like that, but about being in the present.

An example of mindfulness that you can start out with, might be actually speaking out loud what you're doing. He has to be cognizant and attending to the now if he does this.

It is tiring. Start small and try it yourself, too, to understand it.

My T suggested a DBT group which has shown some decent effectiveness with ADHD. I'd check with your therapist if its suitable for your son.

M.