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Originally Posted by quiznot
Well with that I don't get as mad because they don't know she has a boyfriend. They find out after they ask her to dance. But those friends of hers who make those jokes know full well because they are her friends. The bright side is that in regards to the jokes, she thought about it and agreed some of the things they have said were pretty disrespectful and she did something about it
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I think you should call a spade a spade before you proceed further.
Basically, you are asserting a right. You are her bf and that gives you, in your mind, property-like rights to her.
So people who ask her to dance without knowing about your rights are not being audacious, but people who make jokes while knowing about your rights are being audacious. They are being audacious in that they disrespect your rights to your gf - they make jokes as if she did not have a bf. That is what peeves you so much - that your property-like rights to your gf are being disrespected. The people who make jokes do not respect your rights (not YOU, not HER, but YOUR RIGHTS TO HER) and that makes you very mad at them.
I hope that naming things correctly would help you in your quest for becoming more at peace with the reality.