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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster
I think you should call a spade a spade before you proceed further.
Basically, you are asserting a right. You are her bf and that gives you, in your mind, property-like rights to her.
So people who ask her to dance without knowing about your rights are not being audacious, but people who make jokes while knowing about your rights are being audacious. They are being audacious in that they disrespect your rights to your gf - they make jokes as if she did not have a bf. That is what peeves you so much - that your property-like rights to your gf are being disrespected. The people who make jokes do not respect your rights (not YOU, not HER, but YOUR RIGHTS TO HER) and that makes you very mad at them.
I hope that naming things correctly would help you in your quest for becoming more at peace with the reality.
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No I have to disagree there. I don't see her as property in the slightest. I am offended by someone's audacity to disrespect the bond we have, and despite my own personal issues, she and i agree on that. If a woman were to do the same, she would get very upset as well, just not to my extent. I think to assume what someone is thinking so brazenly is not a good idea. Especially when you are basically calling the person a chauvinist. That's not the case. I just have a short temper and little tolerance for disrespectful people. She is my partner and I don't think there's something wrong with becoming upset about these dirty jokes, I think the problem is how I handle it, which is poorly and in a very hostile way.