Yes I totally get what you're saying, all of it. I'm guilty of it at times, when my sister says she wants to get into shape and I'm like what for, you already are! But that's because she's always been tiny, I get where she's coming from really, because she means tone up.
And group situations I absolutely hate! No matter how lovely this group is and they really are, but I forced myself to go. Almost left, I would've left if my husband hasn't been there with me!
I see your point on a nutritionist, that's a really great idea and I will give it a lot of thought. I would like to get to the bottom of why some foods seem to trigger anxiety and panic too. Like brown bread, I used to be able to eat it, but I can't go near it now because I get terrible stomach cramps and then it makes me sick. I have no idea why. My brother out of nowhere developed food allergies so I'm wondering if I have too. There's a great centre near me that does loads of alternative therapies but they also have nutritionists and allergy testing too. I went there for some shiatsu sessions whilst pregnant and they were fab. I might give them a call