Hello to you..

Am so sorry that you've been living with such a nasty man, and I am so happy to read that you know that this isn't your fault now and you're going to get out.

With your new man.. if he is the right one then he will take things slow. He knows about it right? He should not rush you and help you. If you find it too hard, please don't be afraid to take some time out completely - if he cares he will understand. Anyone who cares about you and what you've gone through will understand. I would try and get some therapy too, to deal with all that's gone on. Be very good for you and may just help your new relationship.

Can I suggest one thing tho? I don't think that your abuser has not noticed your things being packed. And I worry that he may try not to let you go, or make things bad for you. When you do go, please go when he's out, at work or anything and do not tell him. Abusers like to be in control and if you tell him you're leaving he may not like that he's losing control and anything could happen. And, I know this isn't as important, but as an animal lover, any chance you can take the cat with you?

I wish you the very best future, you deserve it.

Hugs